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Abortion
- The Debate Rages On by Hilda de la Rosa |
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A soul decides to incarnate in a physical body, and in order to do that, it is faced with various choices. We set up lives with great, conscious intent. Intent to learn and experience that which we have not yet "graduated" from. Just spend a moment thinking about the logistics of such planning and you will immediately know that it takes greatness to put a life together. We choose parents and therefore grand parents, countries, circumstances and in some instances we set it up that we get the DNA from one set of parents but imprinting and environmental influences from another set of parents - as in the case of adoption. Setting up a life therefore is quite something. Not one soul will influence our lives in any major way without our and their consent - prior to the incarnation.
Remember as well that we set up challenges to make such an experience interesting. Growth arises from adversity more often than not. We as a species are not inclined to change our lives when all is going well. We really only decide to change when we are being prodded by adverse circumstances. We also set up experiences, which facilitate learning. The whole point of incarnation is to reach a state of pure and unconditional love and acceptance of every one and every thing. Remembering that not all of us have completed all of the same lessons and therefore our experience and our judgements vary accordingly.
If one bears in mind that there is a positive aspect and a negative aspect about everything, one can understand the huge abortion debate, which has been raging for years. As with any other controversial topic - there will be a positive and negative. Only those souls who have "graduated" from that particular lesson will have no feeling toward such a controversial issue and these souls are often seen as "insensitive" or uncaring. This is not the case - it simply means that the soul has already been down this road and has achieved neutrality - or unconditionality about a particular issue. When the issue revolves around human life, it becomes that much more sensitive.
Religious institutions have, for aeons, taught us that we are born in sin and in sin we die. They have also taught us that the penalty for some "sins" is more severe than for others. Right on the top of the sin list is "taking a life of another individual" - this includes abortion. This, together with the judgement call from society, (not as prevalent today as it was a mere 30 years ago) that being pregnant out of wedlock is taboo, has made the whole abortion issue a great way for souls to learn about forgiveness and compassion. Few heed the lesson's call.
Considering the perspective that the soul is eternal - it has always been and will always be - it is therefore impossible to terminate the soul, since all is learning and the soul does not judge learning good or bad - it is simply learning. Remembering also that all soul's experiences are set up with prior agreement of all other souls involved, it is therefore impossible to "do something to a soul without its consent and prior agreement". Abortion is therefore a learning experience. It is the lesson of the experience that should be found, rather than judging the experience as good or bad.
What is abortion's lesson?
A Mother's perspective - Sandra*
My relationship with my parents and theirs with me was a difficult one. My mother was unfulfilled and unable to assert herself (married after WW2 and playing the role handed to her at the time). She had children only to please (my
unpleasable) father. He too was playing his role of
"bread-winner", the strong and silent type. The first-born "knows" the
unwantedness, without a shadow of a doubt - right from day one. The result was a child trying desperately to please, losing herself completely in an effort to be and do whatever it takes to be accepted unconditionally.
The spin-off for me was not to particularly want to bring a child into my life. This is not to say I lack maternal instincts. Far from true. Nurturing animals and plants is a biggie in my life and more than one man has been heard to comment that when he dies, he may just choose to come back as one of my dogs, as they receive endless and unconditional love, forgiveness, devotion and care. I feed wild squirrels during the autumn and spring months as well as the feral cats at work. Potted and neglected plants also receive food and care. I regularly transmit love and care to the animals of the world and send my gratitude, love and appreciation to Gaia, mother Earth.
So, imagine the dilemma I was faced with, being in my 40s and pregnant for the first time in this life. This was without doubt, my last pregnancy and the belief and concern that I would be an unfit parent, was firmly in place. People looked at the way I treated my dogs and argued vociferously with me on that subject. However, on a deeper level, I KNEW... You see, without fully understanding what it was between my parents and me, I could not ensure I would prevent it from being passed on to my child. Maybe I understand the agreement between my parents and myself but maybe not.
I also believe that souls agree to meet and go through certain "missions", in love, to assist one another with growth and enlightenment. But we don't always know at the time, why those people are in our lives, why they affect us so (or us, them) and why the situation develops as it does. Until the veil lifts, we will not know. I also believe that souls choose parents to enable them both to learn lessons. Whatever the decision and outcome, it is always played out in love and understanding. And so, there we were, the three of us.
The father was far from being in a position to be able to offer solid financial assistance, although he was willing to assist where he could. Neither of us were really prepared to commit to a relationship at the time, me least of all. He and I have subsequently come a long way over a long period of time, and have learned some critical lessons about relating, trust and openness (not learned previously and not learned in the family environment).
Ending the pregnancy was heart wrenching. She (an intuitive guess) is and always will be, a part of my life and I think of her often. I light candles and I honour her and feel the loss and mostly, thank her for her participation in my growth this lifetime.
A Healer's Perspective
Should my client choose to have an abortion for whatever reason, I would nurture her.
Ritual as a healing tool.
I feel that we should perform a ritual, and ask her to take something that could have been used for the child and do a ritual around that "passing" of this soul. The lessons are individual in cases like this. But the soul still passes, onto its next incarnation. We would take a symbol, say a little ribbon, or a teddy, or something like that, and bury it, or have a ritual burning of the item. This would assist the client to confirm the end of that cycle, and release the memory to something that did happen, it does not have to be hidden. But like the death of any one it needs to be treated with respect. We would then do a cleansing ritual. I would spend time counselling her in the grief and loss process, and assist her to become more self-nurturing as well. We would do massages and I would recommend herbs and foods that would assist in her recovery. Those young women who had an abortion thirty years ago are still holding a memory; these can gently be released and dealt with. Many of these women have a history of gynaecological problems as the pain or guilt sits in the in the membranes (memory brains of the body). There are rituals to heal this pain.
I have recently had some interaction with health care professionals who have to assist in abortions, and the one complaint they have is that they have never been given counselling to handle the delicate situation. And they are not taught how to deal with the patient other than the fact that it is a surgical procedure.
As far as the male partner is concerned, I feel that we should counsel him as well, if it was a combined choice. He may also experience loss, and grief.
A Channelled Perspective - By Colleen-Joy Page
Let no person assume that he or she knows the right or wrong path of another. In a world of pain and struggle, if you must contribute your feelings towards another's action, let your contribution be that of compassion. For you too have walked a long path that has included actions that have challenged the ways of society and you too have felt the wrath of human
judgement. So do not judge what you cannot know. The choice of each soul is respected and honoured without question, for soul is without
judgement, and this includes honouring the choice of a parent to terminate a pregnancy, and of a soul (if one has chosen to be with the mother), who agrees to not be born. To the souls of the mother and growing baby, there is no loss and no separation after abortion, for souls are eternal and bonds of love know not the barriers of physical separation. When abortion is chosen, consider that the mature souls involved have full knowing of the choices and for some there is an agreement to not be together in bodies at that time. For as easily a soul can enter one body, so can it enter another.
If you find yourself feeling anger or a lack of respect for someone who chooses to end a pregnancy, check first your own inability to forgive yourself of your own past. Be aware that you will be the hardest on others only if you are looking out from a prison of shame and guilt. Gently look at the walls that keep you from being able to feel kindness and compassion for yourself before you decide on the morality of another's actions. If you face the choice of abortion, let your heart be your guide and above all, believe in yourself and trust what you know is the appropriate action. Love yourself enough to not choose from a space of fear - find the peaceful place inside you that knows only love for you - trust that above all else.
Conclusion
There will never be an easy answer to this most controversial and very emotional topic. What I discovered about this issue is that compassion is the most important component, which we should have. Not only compassion for the individuals who choose to have an abortion but also for those who choose to have a baby under very difficult conditions. When I was a young woman, I was honoured that my life path led me through a home for unmarried mothers. There I learned the hardship of the decisions of keeping a baby and being a single parent or, choosing to give a baby up for adoption. Some of the young women in the home, decided to keep their babies, some decided to give them up for adoption and some changed their minds at the last minute. None of the decisions were easy. All took many hours of counselling and preparation. I still have contact with a few of these young women - we have a bond - a shared pain. I was very fortunate - I was in a position to keep my baby. Others were not so fortunate, and the pain lingers on. Every birthday, every Christmas, every child with blue eyes, every person born on the same day - perhaps in the same year? The questions remain unanswered.
Every choice that is made with regards to an "unplanned" pregnancy is difficult and often very painful. We are on this planet to learn about love. Love is unconditional. People's points of view on a subject cast judgements about what is right and what is wrong. It is only our perspective, which varies from person to person. Do not force your perspective on another - you do not know their soul's learning or their personal pain.
* Name has been changed in order to honour privacy. |
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